We all have different personalities, different wants and needs, and different ways of showing our emotions. Navigating through this all takes tact and cleverness – especially if we hope to succeed in life. This is where emotional intelligence becomes important.
Emotional intelligence is the ability to identify, use, understand, and manage your own emotions in positive ways to reduce stress, communicate effectively, identify with others, overcome challenges and defuse conflict. This ability also allows us to recognize and understand what others are experiencing emotionally. This acknowledgement and understanding is, for the most part, a non-verbal process that informs thinking and influences how well you connect with others (Coach Federation, 2014).
People with high emotional intelligence are usually successful in most things they do. Why? Because they’re the ones that others want on their team. When people with high emotional intelligence send an email, it gets answered. When they need help, they get it. Because they make others feel good, they go through life much more easily than people who are easily angered or upset.
As we know, it’s not the smartest people that are the most successful or the most fulfilled in life. You probably know people who are academically brilliant and yet are socially incompetent and unsuccessful at work or in their personal relationships. Intellectual intelligence (IQ) isn’t enough on its own to be successful in life. Yes, your IQ can help you get into college, but it’s your emotional intelligence that will help you manage the stress and emotions when facing your problems. IQ and emotional intelligence in cycle and are most effective when they both are elevated and building off one another (Segal, Smith & Shubin,2016).
- Coach Federation , 09 Sep 2014, viewed 18 May 2016
- Jeanne Segal, Ph.D., Melinda Smith, M.A., and Jennifer Shubin , April 2016, viewed 18 May 2016